Consistent home environments for children after divorce

Pierre Domercq Child Custody and Visitation

One potential challenge for divorced parents in California revolves around keeping rules between households consistent for children. While there are many aspects of divorce, such as property division, that take time and energy, parents need to prioritize their children’s well-being above all else. Children need stability and minimal conflict at this time, and there are steps parents can take to facilitate that.
The first step is for parents to simply sit down and talk about their differences and try to reach a compromise. Children who are 6 or older may be included in this meeting as well. Parents should put the best interests of the children first. If they cannot reach a compromise, they might find parenting classes helpful. These are often offered through family law courts. Another option is a family law mediator, which is a neutral third party who can work with parents and help them try to reach an agreement that satisfies them both.
Parents should also think about what compromises they are willing to make and which ones they are not. Flexibility is important, but it may be possible to work out a give-and-take with the other parent. If all else fails, parents have the option of returning to court to resolve some issues, although this takes the control away from them.
Many of these potential conflicts can be worked out in the parenting plans that parents can create during the divorce. This plan can deal with issues such as bedtimes, homework and vacations. There are, however, a few types of issues that parents need to go back to court to resolve. For example, relocation by one parent that affects custody and visitation or a change in how much child support is paid must be approved by a judge.