Emotional Responses Add Time and Cost to a Divorce

Pierre Domercq Divorce

The primary source of cost in a divorce is the amount of discord and disagreement between the parties. How do you handle conflict and are you aware when your former spouse is pushing your emotional buttons? One of the most profitable skills to work on during your North County divorce is the ability to manage powerful emotion and recognize emotional hot buttons within yourself.
As divorce attorneys who have represented North County residents in Encinitas, Oceanside, Vista and Carlsbad divorce cases for multiple decades we can tell you thing for certain: Ultimately every issue in your divorce case will be resolved in one way or another.
The central question of your divorce is “How will areas of disagreement be decided?”
You have the most control and influence over these answers when you are negotiating with the other party. Our attorneys are skilled negotiators, and our decades of service informs these negotiations. We can recommend several options which might work and shield you from emotional hot buttons while helping you to set aside strong emotions to make decisions from a position of strength.
Mediation is another alternative to taking your case before a judge. Mediation is a confidential and non-binding option which creates a productive non-confrontational environment where the parties can identify their core issues. The mediator helps to guide the conversation and works with the parties and their representatives to identify potential solutions and negotiate resolution to these challenges.
You still maintain a fairly high degree of control and influence in mediation.
Finally, when you face someone who is unreasonable in their positions or simply is unable to compromise a judge will have to resolve the question or issue. In this venue you place the issue and your future completely in the judges hands. This is rarely a “win or lose” environment. You have no control over the outcome. A judge knows they have issued a fair order when both parties walk away feeling like they’ve had the wind knocked out of them.
You will ultimately get through your divorce, and the emotions will pass. It is important to really understand this. You will have to live with outcome or spend years in expensive and post-decree litigation.
We invite you to take a deep breath, review the recommendations of our clients and the legal industry and contact Burke & Domercq or call 760-712-3741 to schedule an appointment with one of our proven attorneys. We will discuss every aspect of your divorce, identify the priorities which are most important to you and develop a strategy to accomplish these goals, and help you to have less strong as you go through the process.