consider the children first when thinking about co-parenting

Consider the Children First When Thinking about Co-Parenting

Pierre Domercq Child Custody and Visitation

It is important to consider the children first when thinking about co-parenting in a Carlsbad or North County divorce.  Families with children in California often experience co-parenting issues when a separation or divorce is occurring.  No matter how difficult the transition is for parents moving from being cohabitants to being co-parents only, it is important that the best interests of the children are maintained.

Unless domestic violence, criminal activity, drug or alcohol addition or child abuse is an issue, California Courts have found it is central to the well-being of children to retain separate yet meaningful relationships with both parents.

There are multiple options for parents to use as collaboration tools so that everyone involved can remain on the same page.  An actual calendar or an internet-based application might help keep track of such necessary information as appointments, school activities and visit schedules.  When co-parents need to communicate regarding their children, it is helpful to put things down in a text or email.  Not only does this form of communication give parents a record of the exchange, but it may help avoid unnecessary verbal hostilities.

Even though situations vary, the adults enmeshed in a divorce process need to put aside their own differences and consider the children first when thinking about co-parenting as well as child custody and parenting plans.  Co-parenting effectively requires parents to communicate with each other and resist putting children in the middle of a conflict . Children also need to understand that it is okay to love both parents and that the divorce is not their fault.

When a divorce is imminent, it is helpful to seek the advice of one of our Certified Family Law Specialists.  Our attorneys work with you to develop a strategy to accomplish your goals and how to present your ideas in a positive frame to the other parent.

If you are considering a divorce we invite you to review the strong recommendations of our clients and the legal industry and contact Burke & Domercq or call 760-712-3741 to schedule an appointment.  Pre-planning not only helps to consider the children first when thinking about co-parenting arrangements, it helps to reduce the emotional and financial burden of a divorce.